It’s ok to admit that you don’t love all of it.


Want to know a secret?  About how I feel about being a Mum.


I don’t love all of it.


In fact, some of it – I downright hate.


And not the obvious stuff either – everyone hates the 4am starts. And changing fifty-billion dirty nappies.


But I’m talking about the mundane bits too.


I’m honestly not that great at playing make-believe with toys. Nor do I love the non-stop conversation four year olds love. Sure I like to chatting with the best of them – but I actually can’t handle the 24/7 questions.


Some days I’d rather stab myself in the eye then referee the fights. How do you rationalise with little people who are NOT RATIONAL?!


I used to feel bad about this, and beat myself up a little. I thought I was a bit of a shit Mum because I don’t LOVE these things. Like it was scandalous not to. Aren’t I meant to enjoy playing with trains? Aren’t I supposed to relish every conversation?


Just no. I don’t. I honestly don’t.


And then I realised – it’s ok if I don’t love all of it.


I read to them multiple times per day. We bake together. We go to the parks and beach and do handstands in the backyard.


I do ‘play’ with them – just maybe not in the way that I thought I should be.


So I’m giving myself a break. We’re calling it character building that they are encouraged to play by themselves when it comes to trains and cars and soft toys. (Although as a side note – his current favourite game is Mummys and Daddys with soft toys for babies. I get to be the Mum and I lie down and pretend to sleep – which is apparently acceptable Mum behaviour) whilst he wrestles the babies and gets up to them when they wake in the night.) For the record I have NO IDEA where he gets the idea that the Daddys are the ones who get up in the night – but let’s roll with that – husband of the year in the making!


I’d love to know – what parts of motherhood do you not love – actually no – which parts do you hate?


It’s ok – no judgment here. x

4 Responses to “It’s ok to admit that you don’t love all of it.

  • Crystal
    8 years ago

    I don’t love the fighting. My daughter is so amazingly strong willed and so much like me. We both have tempers so we argue. There is definitely more happy than not, but still, I really don’t love the not.

    • Bettina Rae
      8 years ago

      It’s funny how our kids mirror all of our worst traits back to us isn’t it. xxx

  • The hardest thing I find about being a parent is not being able to do what I want when I want. I didn’t think it would bother me but I miss my independence. I guess once the children are older it will be able to do more of the things I love.

    • Bettina Rae
      8 years ago

      It’s so hard isn’t it! I remember that being the biggest struggle for me at first. I think you just have to find a way to make solo time work for you. It makes you a better parent. Xxx

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