Make friends like the littles do.

We really need to learn a lot from our little people. As adults, we say it is so hard to make new friends.

But is it really that hard or do we just make it so? For whatever reason we are mostly closed to friendships and react with suspicion when people are overly nice. Or is that just me?
Friendships as adults tend to arise only ย when circumstances put two people together for extended periods of time. Now I’m not saying that circumstance guarantees a relationship, as I’m sure we’ve all worked with someone we couldn’t actually stand. But it’s almost like we don’t bother to make friendships unless they are right there in front of us, whether that be through work or common interests.
Children on the other hand make friends so easily. Wherever they may be they are looking to make friends. They are OPEN to making friends. And friendships are made through the simplest of commonalities. “You’ve got a bucket, I’ve got a bucket- let’s play!”
This was Eamon at the beach today with a little girl who was visiting on holidays. It didn’t matter to him that she was a year or so older, or that he had never seen her before. He was willing to share his toys and “chat” about whatever it is one year olds babble about. ย  The conversation between her mother and myself was a little more stilted, each a little hesitant, made cautious by the social constraints that adulthood puts on talking to complete strangers.
It wasn’t until they had left that I realised it was the little people who had it right. They approached each other as friends until proved otherwise, rather than the other way around.
So whilst I am still going to make sure I’m in the right places to meet people up here (playgroups, yoga classes, work social events, etc) I think making an effort to be a little more open to the possibility is what I need to work on.
What about you? Are you open to new friendships?

Yep no pictures of his new little friend, unless you count the bird!

6 Responses to “Make friends like the littles do.

  • Lila Wolff
    9 years ago

    I try to be but it can be hard as someone who doesn’t naturally put themselves forward, but I’m trying!

  • Teagan Childs
    9 years ago

    I love that… so nicely put “You’ve got a bucket, I’ve got a bucket- let’s play!”

    and friends until proven otherwise would be such a wonderful way to live!!!

  • littleoldsouls
    9 years ago

    Thanks for your sweet comment Kelly. I wonder why we become so closed as adults?

  • I love this – and agree! For me, I don’t do the small-talk that so many people seem to like, but that aside, I seem to run into a lot of people who are genuinely hard to talk to and closed off. It’s rather disheartening to try and talk to someone who only gives one or two word answers, so after a few minutes I give up and go back to my own thing while our children play. I am very open (and willing!) to new friendships; I just wish I could find someone I really clicked with and easily talk to. ๐Ÿ™‚ Love the picture. When my 4yo was younger she used to chatter incessantly at the seagulls!

  • I have worked in retail and as a hairdresser so can talk to anyone. Yet I am ridiculously shy and will avoid social situations. Why can’t I learn to apply work friendly to personal life?

  • BecAtPennyLane
    9 years ago

    This is so true ๐Ÿ˜‰ i love the way kids see life and those around them. If only we didn’t loose so much of that innocence as we grow up. There is no judgement, no comparisons, it’s just so much simpler being a child. Oh to be a kid again ๐Ÿ˜‰

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